Why see a psychologist when diagnosed with prostate cancer?

A diagnosis of prostate cancer is what psychologists call a boundary event — a life-altering experience that affects how we think, feel, relate to others, and envision our future. It can challenge our identity and disrupt us both emotionally and physically.

For men with localised disease, tough decisions may have to be made about treatment, sexual function, and continence.

For those with advanced disease, additional concerns may include: disturbed sleep, daytime fatigue, hot flushes, low libido, shifting emotions, altered appearance and worries about future mortality

In response to such challenges, many men have been conditioned to simply “tough it out.” But true resilience isn’t about ignoring your emotional distress — it’s about confronting it. Choosing to see a psychologist is not a sign of weakness; it’s an act of courage and strength. It’s a step toward adapting, growing, and reclaiming a sense of control.

What Are the Benefits of Seeing A Psychologist?

People often wonder, How can talking help? Yet when things go wrong, it’s natural to look for someone to talk to, and it’s usually through conversation that we begin to understand ourselves and the world around us. In this way, talking is central to emotional well-being.

Psychologists provide a safe, confidential space to explore our experiences, how we interpret them, and their impact on our relationships and future.

The American Psychiatric Association and others cite strong evidence that therapy can:

• Help people bounce back from adversity

• Provide tools to manage emotions and cope with change

• Strengthen and rebuild relationships

Restore a sense of purpose and meaning

Common Myths About Seeing A Psychologist

“It’s just talking about feelings.”
Therapy is about finding practical solutions — not just venting.

“I should handle this on my own.”
Seeking help is wise, not weak.

“Psychologists just don’t get what men’s issues are about.”
Many psychologists specialise in men’s health and concerns.

“Therapy is only for serious problems.”
Many high-achieving men (including Stephen Fry, Tim Baker and Ben Stiller, all of whom have prostate cancer) have publicly advocated for the benefits of seeing a psychologist.

Taking the First Step

Whatever your situation, you don’t have to tough it out alone. Therapy is an investment in your emotions, your relationships, and your future.

Mr Max Rutherford, Registered Psychologist - May 2025